Societal Pressure Is Running Your Life, or How to Stop Diets from Running Your Life!
When everyone around you is doing the same thing, it can be hard to stand apart from the crowd. It’s more normal to be on a diet these days than it isn’t. You want to be accepted; that’s normal. The dilemma is how to stop diets from running your life!
Being the person who isn’t on a diet these day actually threatens that acceptance, so most people will change to fit in. Society has a picture of what the perfect weight is, and we all have gotten the message what that perfect weight is, haven’t we?
It’s not you, and it’s not me. You’ll see what society thinks about your weight in the magazine articles that tell women who wear a size ten how they can “shed those unwanted pounds.”
The average person wears a size between twelve and fourteen. Yet society tells us that if your weight is higher than what could qualify as a fever on a thermometer, you need to go on a diet.
Another interesting fact (I’m someone who was taught to sew her own clothes beginning at age 9, so I know) is that the sizes have changed over the years. A larger size back in the 60s, let’s say maybe a 10 or 12 is a 6 or an 8 now. I honestly can’t remember the exact changes, but I can tell you I wasn’t a 6-8 in my 20s, and I am now. That’s crazy. I’m about 5’9″. I shouldn’t be a size 6-8…
We buy into this pressure, and it sends us into a frenzy of having to lose weight in order to fit in. What’s so sad is that the people who are making these claims aren’t people who have a perfect weight. They’re people who are just as caught up in what they think everyone should like as you and I are. But you give in; we give in. You cave in to what society tells you your body is supposed to look like. I understand; most of us struggle with self-doubt.
Your last diet didn’t really work for you, so you start again; you try another diet… determined this time to do whatever it takes to get the weight off. Before you know it, the next diet has taken over your life.
That next diet is what you think about you/how you define yourself; it’s what you dwell on, and it’s what you and your friends talk about. You continue to chase the elusive vision of perfection, because you believe others must know something you don’t.
If they can diet and have a perfect weight, then surely it’s obtainable for you. With this kind of mindset, it becomes your new norm to be in the cycle of dieting and then off dieting. Once again, you wonder how to stop diets from running your life.
You begin to see it as normal that you gain weight during one of the off cycles. All your friends are saying the same thing. They’re having the same challenges and frustrations with dieting and losing weight, then gaining it back again. When that happens, you hop into the on-cycle, and the process starts all over again.
Look back and see how many years you’ve spent chasing a diet, chasing a perfect weight, trying desperately to fit in with what society says looks beautiful or looks healthy.
This is really important: Those beautiful women in magazines have had every bulge and every line airbrushed to perfection. It’s not reality! It’s advertising and it’s brain washing. It’s time to say “no” to societal pressure, and it’s time to stop allowing diets to control your life.
Frankly, to succeed with any weight change, it’s truly not about dieting; it’s about changing how you eat long term to change your life. When you eat the right foods, the pounds will go, and your body will find its own perfect weight. Been there; done that. I know what I’m talking about.
Helping you achieve Major Wellness in your life!
Cheryl A Major, CNWC